FIRST STEPS

 

 

Sooo the day has come every girl is waiting for!

He proposed to you and you caaaant belive it.

I hope it was super-romantic and unforgettable for you – and of course i hope the right one proposed. But to be honest, it doesn’t really matter how he proposes, even if he came with a plastic ring ..– ist a special moment for you and your beloved ones.

So lets get back to the topic.

You’re engaged now – Congratulations!

And what now? What is the next step? How i’m gonna tell it my family/friends ….?

At first – keep calm. Enjoy this moment of happiness and get ready for the next chapter of your life – first for yourself!  If you’re both in a long relationship, i am sure it’s not gonna be hard to tell your family about it. Otherwise it could be kind of difficult maybe.

  1. Make sure it’s the right moment

Dont tell you’re family while watching tv or having guests at your house!

Make sure everyboy is at home and if you want to remember the reactions of everyone – place a camera somewhere. Thats what i did! Maybe after that you want to cut a small video of all reactions – it’s supercool and you can show it even to your kids one day.

 

First (please!) tell your family and all the friends who means a lot to you. Dont change your relationship status on facebook or other social media before you tell them personally!!!!!!!

Dont write it in a text message. Call them – 5 minutes can mean a lot to  them.

  1. Make sure you’re not expecting too much

I’m sure there are a few people in youre life who will not understand your decision to get married.

However they will always find a reason not to show  any signs of happiness and ask you dumb questions like „omg why“ or  „are are sure?“ However! Say thank you and dont answer any of these questions. To be honest – just leave and delete the scene from your camera 😉

 

  1. Stay cool and dont let you get in any kind of stress

WHERE? WHEN? CAN I BE..? WHO IS YOUR MAID OF HONOUR? …

Questions over questions. Just stay cool and tell them you dont kow the details and you just wanted to tell them the super exciting news. Dont promise anything!!!!!

 

  1. I Know whats the best for you…

No you dont. Dont get anyone to much involved in your business. Planing a wedding will cost you time, nerves, friends and money.

Parents often want to help but they dont notice when it‘s to much. Tell them from the very beginning that you’re happy having them and you’re sure they know a lot more about weddings than you, but you want to plan everything with your future husband and if you need any help, you will step to them and ask for help. If you dont- it could lead you in to trouble and a lot of pressure.

  1. Traditions

Sometimes ist difficult. When you’re both oft he same nationality and you both grew up at the same place – there will be no difficulties. BUT if you dont – ….

Often parents insists to have their traditions at the son’s or daughter’s wedding. BUT there are two sides! Sometimes it’s not just traditions but religion!

Let me tell you one thing! Dont ever try to comfort everybody! It’s impossible. Dont loose yourself for  the wishes of others. Your parents (BOTH!) can tell you what they would like to have at your wedding BUT you have to tell them, that the last decision is on you and your future husband.

Sit down with your fiancee and talk about everything, write it down and sleep over it. When you’re 100% sure o fit – tell the others. Dont let them confuse your plans. Its all about talking and comprehension.

  1. CRY BABY CRY

There will be a lot of controversials – maybe and maybe not.

But i’m sure there will be. .There will be egoists all around you. People who will do anything to get what they want – and they will hurt you through words, actions or even face expressions.

DONT TAKE IT TO HARD AND DONT LET IT GO TO YOUR HEAD!!!

The worst thing that can happen is a fight between you and your fiancee – for no reason. Just because it’s getting  to emotional. Try to stop this as soon as possible. If people are trying to hurt you, go away. Dont discuss. You’ll see different kind of people around you:

  • The NO-NO’s: Everything you say or do is wrong for them. They will always have better and bigger ideas. (Most of them are not married)
  • The SUPPORTER: They will accept everything you say and do AND help you to get the best wedding ever.
  • The Two-faced: They seem to like every idea and give you all the support you need – but talking behind your back and not doing anything at all.
  • The Busy’s: People who listen to your ideas and problems and tell you a 1000 times to call them when you need support or any kind of help. But when you need them they’re always busy and full of problems and maybe the next time you see them is your wedding.

Remember! If you loose any of your „friends“ – they never were friends.

It‘s hard to understand the pressure and all the emotions as Bride and Groom  until you’re in the same situation. If there are people who cant handle this, let them go. I think every friend or family member should try his/her best to make you happy. If they get mad out of no reason – its not your problem anymore. A good friend will try to understand every of your decisions, will stand by your side every time you cry for no reason und help you to make the best out of every situation.

 

  1. TEXTING

Sometimes the pressure of a wedding can make you feel tooo emotional. You’ll get mad for no reason and you’ll overthink a lot. DONT TEXT ! NO TEXTMASSAGES, WHATSAPP, VIBER, SKYPE – WHATEVER. First keep calm – running can help a lot to get you down to earth again.

If you have any problems – CALL! But dont text out of emotions. Other could missunderstand you.

 

  1. Party! – or NOT?

 

When you’ve told everybody about your news – it’s time to party !! or not?

If you’re feeling like party invite all your friends and make an Engagement Party. Nice music, food, cocktails… where all oft the guest feel forced to buy something that you’ll never need again….(haha)

BUT dont feel like you have to! You will have a lot to do for your wedding – this should be the best party ever !!!

Focus on that!

 

9.FREE TIME/ DATES

Try to still have date-nights with your fiancee – the time before the wedding can be very stressful.

Dont forget to relax and forget all the troubles and loud voices around you!!! You two are the most important in this whole thing!

 

  1. ASK YOUR PARENTS/FRIENDS/NEIGHBOURS

 

Sometimes you’ll feel like the only one in the world who has to deal with all those troubles – but you’re NOT ! It feels good to hear that your parents had to deal with- maybe the same things. Or your friends who are engaged too. Talk talk talk – but dont tell them everything. Sometimes listening to someones problems can solve your owns 😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

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